What does cajolingly mean?
Cajolingly means “in a cajoling manner,” describing speech or behavior that seeks to persuade through endearment, flattery, or gentle coaxing. It is especially effective when the person speaking knows that a direct request is unlikely to succeed. The word often conveys affection and charm, but it can also imply that persuasion is calculated or slightly manipulative. For example, someone might cajolingly ask a guest to stay longer, urge a friend to accept a gift, or encourage a reluctant child to try a new activity. Because it is a formal, literary adverb, it gives colorful emphasis to an exchange that relies on pleasing words rather than force or clear argument. The related verb cajole is more widely used, while the adverb is especially useful in descriptions that focus on the persuasive manner of an interaction. Cajolingly is therefore a precise choice when the reader should notice not only that someone is trying to persuade, but also the flattering and ingratiating way they do it.
adverbIn a cajoling manner; by using coaxing or flattering words to persuade someone.
- In a cajoling or coaxing manner, using words of flattery or endearment to persuade.
"She cajolingly asked him to stay for one more cup of tea."
"He cajolingly persuaded the reluctant guest to join the conversation."
"The advertisement cajolingly described the ordinary product as exceptional."
Cajolingly is persuasion wearing a smile: flattering, coaxing, and determined to get its way.
Reviewed by Deb Chak, Editor. AI-assisted content curated by RJS Tech Solutions LLP.
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How cajolingly is actually used
A somewhat literary and old-fashioned expression. It often suggests a mixture of charm, flattery, and gentle manipulation, so the tone can be affectionate or faintly ironic depending on context.
Easily confused with cajolingly
Cajolingly is an adverb describing the manner of persuasion, whereas cajole is the verb meaning to persuade someone by flattery or pleasing words.