What does gentility mean?
Gentility means refined, courteous behavior, particularly the graceful manners associated with an elegant or well-bred social setting. It can describe a person's way of speaking and behaving, the atmosphere of a place, or, in more traditional usage, the social status implied by noble birth. The word is generally formal and carries positive associations with kindness, polish, and good taste, although it can be used ironically to imply that refinement is artificial or exaggerated. Historically, gentility was closely connected with inherited social rank and with the idea of being a gentleman or gentlewoman. Today, it more often refers to manners and conduct than to a particular aristocratic class. Because of that historical association, gentility can suggest not only courtesy but also a degree of distance from ordinary or everyday life. Nevertheless, its principal modern sense remains that of elegant, considerate, and refined behavior.
nounGentility is polite, refined, and courteous behavior, especially in a formal or elegant social setting. In older or formal usage, it can also refer to genteel social status or noble birth.
- Polite, refined, and courteous behavior or manners.
- Social status or distinction associated with good birth, elegance, or aristocratic background.
"The inn was known for its comfort, its gentility, and its attentive service."
"Her quiet gentility put everyone at ease during the formal dinner."
"The estate's architecture reflected the gentility of the family that had owned it for generations."
The plural is rare and is used mainly when distinct forms or instances of refinement or cultivated behavior are meant.
"The novel contrasts the public gentilities of the aristocracy with the private kindness of its servants."
Gentility shares its root with gentle, but it grew to mean more than softness: refined manners and, historically, noble birth.
Reviewed by Deb Chak, Editor. AI-assisted content curated by RJS Tech Solutions LLP.
Where does gentility come from?
The word entered English from Middle French gentilité, meaning nobility or good manners, and was ultimately borrowed from Latin gentilitas, a noun associated with noble birth, kindred, and courtesy. Latin gentilitas developed from gentilis, originally meaning of the same family or clan and later acquiring senses such as foreign, pagan, and noble. English developed the modern emphasis on refined manners, while related forms including gentle, gentleman, and genteel reflect the same broader Latin and French word family.
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How gentility is actually used
The word is formal and can be approving, neutral, or mildly ironic. In phrases such as "false gentility," it suggests affected or superficial refinement rather than genuine courtesy.