What does sulking mean?
Sulking describes a particular way of expressing displeasure: withdrawing into silence and acting sullen rather than discussing the problem openly. The word usually implies a degree of immaturity or passive resentment, as when a child refuses to speak after an argument, although it can also be used lightly to describe an adult nursing a grievance. Sulking is closely associated with pouting, moping, and brooding, but it specifically conveys a moody, unresponsive withdrawal. In everyday conversation, “stop sulking” is a common and familiar response, often said when someone’s silence seems intended to express guilt, disappointment, or a desire for attention. The term is useful because it identifies not merely sadness, but sadness or irritation expressed through silence and avoidance. Its mildly disapproval or humor in many contexts makes it especially suited to informal descriptions of interpersonal behaviour.
verbTo behave silently and resentfully because one is annoyed or disappointed. A person who is sulking withdraws from others and communicates their displeasure through a sullen or unresponsive manner.
- To remain silent and moody because of resentment or disappointment.
- To brood over an imagined slight, grievance, or misfortune.
"He stopped sulking and apologised for his behaviour."
"The children sulked for hours after being told they could not go to the park."
"Rather than admit that the decision bothered him, he spent the evening sulking."
Sulking is a quiet form of rebellion: instead of speaking, a person lets their frustration hang in the air.
Reviewed by Deb Chak, Editor. AI-assisted content curated by RJS Tech Solutions LLP.
Where does sulking come from?
The verb comes from the late 16th-century word “sulk,” originally meaning to hang or lounge about in a lazy or sulky manner. Its later sense developed towards the modern meaning of behaving sullenly or silently out of resentment. The related adjective “sulky” arose in the 17th century, while “sullen” is a separate word with a different, though historically related, development.
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How sulking is actually used
Generally informal and often mildly critical or teasing when describing another person's behaviour. It can also be used humorously about oneself.
Easily confused with sulking
Sulking means expressing resentment through a sullen withdrawal, whereas stalking means following or secretly watching someone or something.